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Recognised within and outside Nigeria, the lawyer-turned humanitarian worker was recently appointed a UN-Ambassador. Anyone following the ongoing Boko Haram insurgency would not miss the fact that the retired lawyer was the first person to mute the idea of dialoguing with the outlawed Boko Haram using a rare opening created by his orphanage.
In this interview with PREMIUM TIMES' Abdulkareem Haruna, the caregiver speaks at length on what inspired his current job; the role he played in the negotiated rescue of 21 abducted Chibok schoolgirls; and what the federal government must do to help end the nearly one decade of war in northeast Nigeria.
How do you feel about that? This is not the first time I am being nominated for such auspicious award in recognition of our modest contributions in the area of humanity. I am more honoured to be associated with such prestigious award, which you know have also been won by great personalities like Thabo Mbeki and the rest.
Even though I have recently been recognised with another honour at the level of the United Nations as one of their worthy ambassadors, I think being nominated for an award, even if one does not emerge the winner eventually, it is really worthy to be so recognised; but we are still keeping our fingers crossed on that.
Could you take us down the line on how this orphanage thing all started? Well, when I started this venture of helping the poor orphans in our communities, I never thought even in my wildest dreams that we would get to this stage where orphans would be counted in their thousands.
But what I came to understand is that we have not been models to our younger ones because of the sheer neglect of their education especially that of the girls. I felt it is our duty - everyone of us, not necessarily the government or those in government - for us to be given such kind of supportive services to these set of less privileged and vulnerable children.
And the most vulnerable in my judgment are the orphans. That was my inspiration; after spending more than 20 years in my trained profession which is the legal profession, I felt I should venture in to the realm of humanity. That was when I went into the venture of helping the orphans.
How was the challenge when you started and how is it now that there are thousands of orphans?
When I started, it was on a very small scale though, but it gives me greater joy. So in when insurgency erupted on its large scale, it added salt to our injury by creating large number of killings of teachers in school, which was precipitated by the killing of some Boko Haram elements; I mean those that started the war.
The killed Boko Haram elements had families - their widows and children became some kind of outcasts, nobody was willing to relate or identify with them; most of them were being judged by the sins of their husbands. I felt I could as well come in to help these people whom I believe may not even be in the know of what their parents or husbands were into before they got killed.
So I got some of them, heard their stories, and immediately I felt they could also come in to join other orphans in my school. So we then called the widows; yes there were 36 widows that were identified, and it was through them that we made further contacts with which we went in as an outreach to get more others.
So how did they respond, especially after that feeling of being profiled as spouses Boko Haram? It was really a turning point for the widows and their children because, as I said earlier, no one was willing to identify with them at that time.
And surprisingly these widows were very much willing to let their children come to us. So when they came, we made sure we also engaged the widows by getting some of these international agencies like the ICRC who came in with different kinds of supports like food condiments and other basic things they could use to sustain themselves at home.
That actually encouraged them and gave them that sense of belonging and acceptance despite their past experiences. So we tried to make life very easy for the widows because when their children come to school, we offer them free breakfast and when they return home, the parents still have something to cook for the kids.
So that feeling of having their livelihood back strengthened them. We later realised that some of them could be of help in getting in contact with the colleagues of their late husbands. And many more of them began to open up even with information that could help the authority's quest for dialogue and interface with Boko Haram.
If you could remember that was what even necessitated the visit of President Obasanjo on his mediation effort at that time even though that mediation later failed because of lack of trust and what have you.
From there we were able to carry on with the mediation efforts down the line up to the stage that the activities of the Boko Haram were outlawed even at the United Nations. So we never abandoned the widows, we continued to support them and their children; we gave them various lifelines, we gave them skills acquisition programmes and made them economically empowered.
We have about of them, and there is none of these widows who could not get as much as N, support which we facilitated thought the ICRC.
So how come the federal government did not explore your channel to see that a mediation process was kick-started much earlier? You know at that time there were many attempts by government to mediate with the Boko Haram before they were finally proscribed.Summary of negotiation simulation In this negotiation simulation, my role is the plombier-nemours.com final price the seller gave me is £, but my expected price is £ Even so I have not been able to reach my expected price but I did not beyond my highest limit £Before the negotiation I have done some preparation work which is helpful for.
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